#1 Listen with Your Ears.
Talking about sex and relationships includes listening too. Sometimes we talk more than we listen.
#2 Clarify their Questions.
Do you really know what your kids are asking? Repeat the question back to them until they do. For example, "So what you are asking me is... is that what you want to know?"
#3 Learn their Information Sources.
Ask them where they heard about certain topics -- remind them that there are many myths out there about sex, what is normal in development and relationships.
#4 Be an "Askable Parent."
Be available, honest and attentive. Praise them for coming to you to talk about tough topics like sexuality, dating and relationships.
#5 Create "Sex Ed Moments."
Use current events, movies, music lyrics, and television as conversation starters. And do so OFTEN!
#6 Practice... Practice... Practice...
It isn't always easy and some topics are harder than others. Try holding practice sessions with a friend first (or even to yourself in the mirror or while driving alone).
#7 It's OK to say "I don't know."
Then look for the correct information together with your child. This also creates a great bonding opportunity.
#8 Teach your Values Openly.
Tell your children what you believe and why, as well as the facts about sexual health and healthy relationships.
#9 Use Resources.
There are many amazing books, websites and local organizations which can help. Most bookstores and libraries have sexuality education sections.
#10 Get Support from Other Parents.
Find others who understand the importance of raising sexually healthy kids and ask them how they've handled different questions and scenarios with their kids at various ages and stages of development.
